Twenty-Minute Twitter: Worst-Case Scenarios

Twenty-Minute Twitter

Twenty-Minute Twitter is a feature where I take Twitter conversations and somehow morph them into an entire post. The people I talk to on there are definitely inspiring and thought-provoking, and often we bring up topics that could use a larger format for exploration. Even though I tend to run a little wild with those topics, the body of the post usually only takes me around twenty minutes to write up!


Recently I had a Twitter conversation with Anya from On Starships and Dragonwings about our mutual love of fancy coffee, and disdain for the instant stuff. I was trying to talk her into setting up a suitable coffee station at her boyfriend’s for her visits over there, and she was sort of talking herself out of it due to intimidation of the fancy coffee machine. I handled this the way I usually handle any type of intimidation, especially when I’m trying to talk a friend into doing something that’s OBVIOUSLY good for increasing her quality of life. ;)

“Worst case scenario?” > Fill in the blank.<  ”NO BIG DEAL, and here’s how you fix it.”

This got me thinking about how often we let intimidation get to us, and obstruct us from trying things we want to do. I’ve seen people let fear get the best of them and prevent them from so many adventures – things as small as picking up a thicker book than usual or trying their hand at some new crafty thing, and as big as moving to an unfamiliar area or starting an entirely new career. Now, full disclosure, I do still let intimidation for possibly unwanted outcomes get to the best of me at times. But usually it doesn’t take long for me to get over my silliness and move on with my plans. Does this mean I’m not afraid of anything? Definitely not! But it does mean when I want something, and I think it’s at all in my grasp to obtain or accomplish it, I don’t let negative thoughts get in the way of my trying. Sure, I might fail. But I might also succeed. And how much happier, more enriched, and more AWESOME will my life be after I accomplish whatever that thing is? Probably a lot.

Here’s what I want you to do. Pick something, any little thing, you’ve wanted to do but have been intimidated by for whatever reason. Think of the worst-case scenario that could happen, that’s preventing you from doing this thing, if you wish. Write down why you’re intimidated to do this thing… and destroy it. Seriously. Trash it, rip it up, draw hearts or smileys all over it, burn it, drench it in water, smear baby food all over it, or drop it in the fryer – but render it completely useless in some way. That’s what that intimidation is to you – useless. Worst-case scenarios may not always be fixable, but for the most part the ones holding us back are, and they’re inflated to a much larger proportion than we should be allowing them to be. You don’t necessarily have to go out and do this small thing after you trash that intimidation, but I bet you’d be happier if you did. Even if you just get rid of the negatives, you’ll be headed down a much more fulfilling road. You have way more power and control over your adventures than that puny fear ever will, and don’t you forget it. ;)

See that? Even Patrick Ness knows about fear and its consequences. You should listen to him. He’s good with words and things.

When I was considering whether or not to even publish this post (because it went in a completely different direction than I had intended), Kelley gave me that little extra push I needed to overcome *my* intimidation. I was worried it might be too… I don’t even know what, too out of the realm for our blog? That people would think I’m crazypants for writing it? That they might get a little offended at me telling them what to do? (Really it’s just a suggestion, but it’s for your own good! ;)) After a brief talk I decided to go live with it, because Kelley convinced me it can only do good for people that may need that little extra push – like she sometimes does, and like I did right at that moment. She also convinced me to share a list with you, of things I just *did* because I wanted to, regardless of the worst-case scenarios for them and regardless of the difficulty or intimidation tied to them.

  • Started several different blogs, and when those all failed, started a book blog anyway. And then wrote a review on it. (Remember when I said reviews intimidate me?)
  • Took up watercolor painting, when I’d never attempted it before and hadn’t painted in any manner in *twenty years.*
  • Tried out different art techniques, some even involving homemade art products, I’d never tried before, knowing they could totally fudge up whatever I was working on.
  • Moved across the country. Twice. By myself.
  • Went to school for technology stuff, and quit working in that field so I could go to school for pastry and end up hating it. Now I’m going to school for art & design. Lot of career changes, lot of risk involved. But I’m pursuing (and finding out at the same time) what makes me happy.
  • Loved. People, things, and places. Both noncommittally and with my whole heart.
  • Learned how to put together and take apart furniture, and computers. I’m pretty handy when it comes time to set up a new house, now.
  • Bought a real Christmas tree for the first time ever, not realizing what a MESS those things make.
  • Adopted a kitten.
  • Shared my life with people on the internet I may or may not ever meet.
  • Learned how to use kitchen equipment with lots of buttons on it. (*nudge Anya* ;))

Of course that list could go on and on, but I think you get the point now. Some of those things are pretty big, and caused me some anxiety, heartbreak, and homesickness. Some of them are small and still caused me anxiety. I may not have been as good at some of those things as I would like, or had them work out the way I was hoping, but I still learned something from every single experience. I certainly learned an amazing amount more than I would have, had I never gone after those things in the first place. All the roads we choose to take lead us to where we are, regardless of the outcome. Your life truly is a choose-your-adventure book.

Do you remember those? They were AWESOME! And even when they ended badly I would just pick another path and continue on. Because, you know, your life isn’t over just because a choice didn’t work out, or take you directly to the castle at the center of the maze, make you rich and famous, or give you love everlasting. But I can guarantee you that it did teach you something about yourself, whether it was how to refine your decision-making process, or to show you that you’re stronger and more capable than you previously believed.

Leanne


By the way, don’t you just love Anya’s Twitter background? I feel like I’m in a fantasy novel about to begin an adventure every time I look at it.

Do you ever let intimidation and fear get the best of you? How do you deal with your worst-case scenarios?

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  1. Kelley was right to push you to publish this. It’s full of very good advice, and things I really needed to hear someone else say rather than just think them myself.

    I let intimidation and fear get the best of me all the time. I can’t count the number of times it’s stopped me from doing things. Almost every decision I make, every action I plan to do, a little bit of self doubt and anxiety blurs it and makes it more complicated than it needs to be. And I let it get the better of me, I back out because I over think and worry about the consequences and don’t think about the potential good things. I’ve never even tried to come up with a way to deal with this anxiety and lack of confidence, I just let second guess myself repeatedly and let it stop me and that really needs to change because it’s interfering with so much of my life.

    Thanks for sharing this post. Like I said, I needed to hear it. It’s interesting to see how other people deal with anxiety/wost-case-scenario fear because I honestly don’t know what to do about it. Normally I force myself to do whatever is scaring me a few times and once I realise I CAN do it I don’t worry as much (but I still worry a little bit. I worry about everything a little bit. Like right now I’m worrying about what you’ll think of this ridiculously long comment and am hoping I’m not wasting your time with stupid rambling)

    • Oh gosh, Bec, you don’t have to worry about me, or expressing yourself here. :) I’m so glad to hear from you on this topic, especially if it might have helped you even the tiniest bit.

      I get anxiety over a lot of little things myself, or just a general anxiety sometimes I can’t even tie to anything. Usually when I try to root out the source of it I can convince myself there’s no use worrying. Or like you said, I’ll try something out I was afraid of and the anxiety will go away or at least get a little better.

      Out of fear, anxiety, intimidation, and doubt, I think self doubt is the worst of the bunch. It’s also the easiest to do away with! Even if at first you don’t quite believe it, just telling yourself you can do something can be very empowering. Planting a seed of believe in yourself can help you take those first steps toward doing something you want to (or need to) do, and once you’ve accomplished what you set out for the rest will fall away. Even if that first time moving toward something isn’t a success, you’ll undoubtedly learn something. Sometimes it takes a few goes before we get the hang of something, and each time we’ll get a little bit closer and work out a little more of the process.

      I hope from now on you won’t be second-guessing yourself as much, and will be letting yourself enjoy the choices you make. (Especially if it’s to leave me a lovely long comment! ^_^) It will take some time and some very conscious decisions to think more of the potential good things than the consequences. But as with everything, a habit will eventually form. Before long you’ll be thinking more positively without even realizing it, which means you’ll have much less of that anxiety and fear stopping you. It may be a gradual process, but I know you can manage it!

  2. Oh, wow. There are so many things I don’t say and do because I’m afraid of the consequences for one reason or another. Probably the biggest is that I haven’t applied for a job in about three years. (The fact that I couldn’t even get a job at a chain of stores I’d worked at before – or anywhere else – leading up to and through the holiday season pretty much destroyed any optimism I had.) But even though I know the worst case scenario is just ending up exactly where I already am, I can’t seem to make myself act.

    • I know just what you mean about job searching. Leaving something so familiar (especially after three years!) can be pretty frightening. There’s always the chance you’ll put yourself into a worse situation you end up disliking more. But there’s also the chance it could turn into a dream job, or lead to another better job down the road. If your worst-case scenario is staying where you already are, that does sound like a good incentive to start looking for a change again! Don’t let the bad holiday luck get you down. There will always be periods where things just don’t seem to want to fall into place for us. But with determination and a bit of luck I have every confidence things will work out in your favor, Charleen. :)

  3. I like this post. I think one of the things we undervalue is failure. We’re so scared of it and so convinced it’s a bad thing. But failure is how we learn and it isn’t the end of the world. I love this quote by Samuel Beckett, “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.” I love that idea of failing better – go bigger, fail harder because when you fail it just means you’re trying something beyond your means and as you do your means will expand.

    Thanks for sharing your list of things. I’ve moved (only across country once but half way 3 times) and changed careers and started blogs and written novels and learn something new every time. i also had a kitten once but she got left with my mom in one of the moves :(

    • Thank you! And you’re completely right. Somewhere along the line people have gotten the idea that failure makes them a terrible person, or less than they should be, when really not trying at all is what’s having them fall below their potential. It’s so true that people learn from their mistakes more than their successes. I certainly do! I love when I do something for the first time and it works out right. But I actually get more a sense of accomplishment when I fail at something the first time, figure out what I did wrong, and fix it. There’s such a sense of satisfaction in finding my way through something, especially if it’s a thing I had to grow or adapt to in order to accomplish. :)

      Oh no, the kitten! >_< I hope you get to see him or her at least from time to time still. Kittens are the best. Very lovely comment, thanks for stopping by!

  4. YAY, I’m so glad you decided to post this, Leanne! Truly, it’s posts like this that just give me the extra encouragement I need to do something I’m hesitant about. There is something very empowering about being handed a simple, TANGIBLE way to crush your fear, and I love that you’ve given us that in this post!

    Since reading it the first time around, I’ve thought about some of the things you’ve encouraged/inspired me to do — that I probably would have been too scared to try otherwise — thanks to your general *just do it* attitude!

    – Go to pastry school (even though I still don’t WORK in pastry, lol)
    – Buy watercolor supplies (and um, attempt to use them soon!)
    – Start writing more fiction
    – A gazillion various pastry/confectionery projects

    I know there’s more, but my brain needs LUNCH, lol. In any case– thank you so much for the positive reinforcement and encouragement all these years. <3

    • Well I’m so glad you convinced me it was a good idea to run with it, Kelley! :D I can’t express how happy and awesome it makes me feel to know I encourage/inspire you in any way, especially if it’s to feed your creative muse. I almost wondered if the tangible aspect might be a little much… but having something tactile to connect a negative feeling to and then overcome it, physically… I feel like not only is that empowering, as you said, but also makes that sense of overcoming it stick in memory for much longer.

      Yay I love your list! I somehow keep forgetting that you attribute your going to pastry school to me, lol. I guess because it’s just something we both always loved it feels like we just kind of went, because we loved it. Well, shoot, I feel special all over again now! ;)

      There are certainly plenty of things you’ve inspired me to do over the years as well. Sometimes I feel like I might even start things thinking “OMG I WANT TO DO THIS SO I CAN TELL KELLEY ABOUT IT!” Haha. Such a shame we don’t live close to each other. We’d never get anything productive done. :D

      Thank YOU for doing the absolute same for me all these years! <3

      • Yeah, you know, I’d always loved baking and I’d always appreciated the craft (both in flavor and in beauty) of pastry/confection, but I never really realized that *I* could do it until I met you and you shared your creations with me on Flickr. And then *still* it didn’t occur to me that I could do MORE with it until I learned that you were going to culinary school and were intending to make a career out of it! It’s interesting, the things that push us forward sometimes.

        I’m so glad that we met and became friends, because just as you said, I love having a friend like you that I can share my ideas with and know you’ll geek out about it as much as I am, lol. And omg if we lived close to each other? Can you IMAGINE all the creative shenanigans and mischief we would get up to? My husband would be like “when do I get to see you again?” lol!

        P.S. If you ever want someone else to geek out about pastry with — Alexia Casale is all over it! She does gumpaste flowers and stuff (she’s doing her friend’s wedding cake!). I just showed her all the stuff in my Flickr gallery and she was so excited, asking a million questions. That’s when you know a person is REALLY into something — I love it! :D

        • Haha oh gosh, our good old days on Flickr! I remember you making some awesome pastry stuff, like color palette cookies and that big sea cake! I was like whattttttttt, why didn’t I think to do that?!

          Lol I would totally steal you from your husband (not fully intentionally). We would have way too many shenanigans, which is why we have to live apart! The universe can’t deal with us being in the same spot for too long. We’d totally do crazy things like “HEY let’s take a day trip to the beach and pick up some sand to color for collages!” Haha.

          Oh wow I didn’t know Alexia Casale was into pastry too! That’s funny she’s doing her friend’s wedding cake, because my offline BFF is getting married and his fiance asked me to make their wedding cake. I may be doing flowers (pink anemones) for theirs but we haven’t nailed down a design yet.

          • LOL I know, we might get out of control if we lived closer together, but it would be so much fun!! I swear, so many of my friends do wedding cakes, but I just can’t do it, lol. I’m so glad nobody has asked me to do that yet. (Although that might partially be because I don’t know anybody – HA!)

  5. I think this is a really beautiful and true post. I’m glad you published it because I think it’s got a lot of great advice for people. My entire life used to be ruled by fear. This was a few years ago, but I had extreme anxiety and so I was basically paralyzed by life. I missed out on a lot of good times and happiness because of it. After a lot of work, I think it’s safe to say I’m the complete opposite now. My motto in life is, “Feel the fear and do it anyways.” It’s totally ok to be scared or intimidated by something. I think it would be almost abnormal if we weren’t? But you can’t let that stop you from doing the things you love or want to do. When I want to do something now, I just do it and deal with the consequences afterwards. Some of the best moments of my life have happened as the result of embracing my fear and acting anyways.

    • Thank you, Rachel! I’m so glad to hear you managed to turn your fear around and can enjoy what life has to offer you now. You’re right, there’s nothing wrong with being a little scared to do something – if we weren’t scared of it at least a little, it probably wouldn’t be worth going after! ;) And once you adopt the attitude of “do something now, deal with consequences later” it’s probably much easier to see those consequences aren’t nearly as bad as we thought they might be.

  6. Very true, and also very inspirational. :D Love this post, Leanne! Yes, fear has held me back from doing a lot of things. Fear of not being good enough kept me from joining a performing arts body like a choir or a band, but I finally did and I had A LOT of fun! :D Now my mindset is that experiencing that fear and having the worst-case scenario happen is something I can get over, at least I took the plunge. But regret over NOT doing something is a feeling that I won’t be able to get over, because it’ll still be there with all its “what-ifs.”

    • Thank you, Ana! :D I’m glad you find in inspirational! You know, the thing about not being good enough at something is that there’s always room for improvement, which you’ll always have time for. And the worst case scenario for trying out for things is that you just get told “no.” Then you can go about improving or trying out elsewhere if need be. BUT! Since you finally did try out you got to soak up the fun! :D That first big reward we get after facing down our fears is usually enough to drastically change how we let fear affect us. It sounds like that’s how things worked out for you, so yay! High five, Ana. Don’t let those “what-ifs” keep you from your adventures.

  7. Woot, this makes me so happy! I haven’t actually tackled the coffee making yet, but that’s just because I’ve been too lazy to get ground beans for it! However, I did mention to boyfriend that we needed to add that to the grocery list and bust it out the next time I’m over :D

    Also, awww, thanks! Come into my world :D Hehe

  8. Leanne, I’m so glad Kelley pushed you to write this because I really needed to hear this message. It’s so easy to let that little voice of fear stop you from accomplishing your dreams and I definitely succumb to it more than I would like to admit.

    When I was in school I was the dream student, I did everything right and was on this oh so successful path but then I messed up and everything just went up in the air. And after a few years of watching my friends proclaim how much they adore college a pit has settled in my stomach that makes me nauseous just thinking about school. Now I’ve finally got enough money saved up to go back to college but… I’m scared. I have to go to the counselor and create an education plan and to do that I have to explain why I’m there, why I’m so late. I have to admit that I failed. I have to actually say the words out loud, and I just know that it would physically hurt. It would send waves of pain that I just don’t know if I’m strong enough to absorb.

    But then I read your post today. And on a piece a paper I wrote “admitting I failed” in untidy handwriting and disintegrated it in the deep fryer. Suddenly that pit in my stomach felt lighter, not all the way gone, but definitely lighter. I’ve made an appointment with my counselor next week, and I’m going to face my fear thanks to your tiny push. So thank you.

    • I’m glad Kelley pushed me to publish it too, and I’m double glad it was something that helped you to hear!

      You know, failure isn’t such a bad thing, and it’s always a temporary status. Failing just means we learn things, and it sticks with us a little more deeply than if we had learned it through success. We can always try again, and even if we do keep failing, we can learn things to help us succeed a little more the next time. All it takes is paying attention to yourself and how you work in certain situations.

      I know you’re strong enough to get yourself to college, Lindsey. I KNOW IT! You’re already talking to me about your situation here in a public forum, so talking to one little counselor will be no big deal after this. :) And whatever it is you need to tell them – they will understand. Just like I see it in you, they’ll see you want to bring about a change and you want to start working on your future education. Counselors are put there to help you and guide you toward the path you choose, so don’t be too afraid to go and talk to yours. :) You have your tuition already saved up, and most important of all, you have the *will* to go back to school… that will is really the only thing you need to make yourself succeed. If you want something and are willing to go after it, things will fall into place for you.

      I’m totally crying some tears of happiness over here for you! I didn’t quite expect this post to turn out how it was going to, and I never expected that I would get such wonderful responses to it. I can’t tell you how happy I am that it helped you in such a huge way. And oh my goodness, how exciting is this! You’re going to college! :D I’ve been told by so many people they never saw someone that liked being in school as much as I do, haha. I hope your stay there is something that makes people say the same about you!

      Big freaking high five on facing that fear, Lindsey! I’d hug you right now if I could. ^_^

      • I’m totally crying tears of happiness too! I feel like this twenty minute post has already made a huge difference in my life! I met with a counselor yesterday and it was so gratifying to lay it all out on the table and then to actually make an official plan for my future. Not being school has given me a whole new appreciation for educataion, I actually get jealous when my friends have to leave to do homework!

        Your post inspired me in more than one way Leanne. I always looked back at the last couple years as a complete waste and felt like I was just stuck in time and place while the rest of the world went on without me. But now I see that I learned things about myself during those years. I’m no longer the meek girl that would give in to other’s whims but instead, I found my voice and it is strong.

        Thank you so much for cheering for me Leanne, you are the sweetest! I’M GOING TO COLLEGE!!!! :)

        • Well aren’t we a mess! A happy one, but still. Haha.

          I think this second thing, even more than you getting yourself back to school, is so important and amazing for you to have taken away from here. College will give you information that you’ll keep for the rest of your life… but changing your outlook on yourself and your past couple of years is even more priceless. It’s an outlook you can keep about yourself for the rest of your life as well. Even when you have times where things may not be going as planned, or how you want, there’s always something you can learn about yourself in them. It sounds like the two years away from school did you a lot of good! You may not have had the same opportunities to grow had you gone right away. So really everything worked out great for you in the end, and now you get to go on to a new adventure stronger than you would have before. :)

          You’ll get over the homework envy soon enough, I’m sure. ;) But I’m so glad you’re a college girl now! :D

  9. I love your optimism! Your advice reminds me of that episode of Friends where they burn stuff from their old boyfriends. “This makes me sad, so I will destroy it.”

    Great post Leanne! Thanks for the encouragement!

    • Thank you, Terri! I spent a large chunk of my life being very pessimistic and negative, and had to learn the hard way that won’t get me anything I want or take me anywhere. It’s definitely more difficult to be optimistic, but the rewards are so much greater! Plus being optimistic can sometimes help others enrich their lives as well as my own. You really can’t beat that. ;)

      I remember that episode of Friends. ^_^ Some people may think it’s silly to go around burning things, but I think those people don’t get how empowering something so small and symbolic can be. I’ll be cheering on anyone that wants to destroy some small tangible thing as long as it gives them freedom to be happy.

  10. Excellent post with great advice. We gotta remember to stay positive and do the best we can. If “what’s the worst that could happen” isn’t all that bad, let’s take the risk and enjoy the ride!

  11. This is a great post, Leanne, and I’m so glad you shared it! I know I’ve been eaten up with intimidation many times, and I have finally learned over the past year or two to not be so fearful. Granted, I still have anxiety about a lot, but I’ve really pushed myself forward by blogging, by participating in NaNoWriMo, etc., and I honestly think it’s all been for the better.

    Several years ago my old youth minister liked to tell our youth group that we shouldn’t be afraid to try things we’re afraid we might fail at, and the example he gave was that he actually auditioned for that show Making the Band (how the band O-Town formed, uh, does anyone remember them?) (oh and yes, he was a totally awesome youth minister who could have been in a boy band and not dorky) and when the judges talked to him during the audition, he told them he decided to go out for it because he always told us was that the worst thing that could happen in these situations is that we would be told no. That’s always stuck with me.

    And when you’re told no or fail, it can be hard, but you can also learn a lot from it!

    • Thank you, Amy! I still have a lot of anxiety over things too, and that may be something that just stays with me for years to come. But it’s much easier to overcome my mini panic attacks once I think about how things have worked out for me in the past. Even when they didn’t, the results weren’t that bad so I really don’t have anything to panic over.

      I’m really glad you’ve been sharing things like your writing goals and NaNoWriMo progress on your blog. It’s uplifting to me to see the kind of progress you’re making on those things by taking hold of them, and I don’t even write! I can only imagine how inspirational those posts are to other authors working on their craft. You definitely don’t come across as someone who has anxiety over anything, least of all writing, so I hope you continue sharing those updates! It has to be doing a world of good for people stopping by your blog.

      That’s an awesome example of facing fears from your youth minister! I mean, just imagine how anxiety-ridden he would be to try out for something so huge (and televised o_o). And still even in that situation the worst-case scenario would be getting turned down! Not so bad at all. It’s not surprising that lesson would stick with you. He sounds like a very inspirational man. :)

      You’re totally right about learning from the nos/failures, too!

  12. Fancy coffee <3 I've always wanted a fancy coffee machine but I just don't drink enough coffe to justify buying one (and no one else in the family likes coffee….)

    Haha yes, real Christmas tree shed. Last time, we ended up throwing out the tree from the window so it won't shed all over the place while being dragged through the whole house (it was a huge tree) and then we spent like an hour cleaning the room.

    REVIEWS. I don't really like to write "traditional" reviews anymore. I got bored with them. Now I mostly write these discussion slash rambling things.

    Haha, machines never intimate me, but I do have my fears, I just don't let that stop me. And funny thing, I find that imagining (realistic) worst case scenarios are actually quite helpful. Like what's the worst that could happen if I travel to a country where I don't know a single soul? I'll get lost (I don't have a very good sense of direction). Oh well, wandering around for a few hours won't kill me :D

    Great, thought-provoking post!!

    • Yes, so much <3 for fancy coffee! I continually switch between coffee and tea so I can't quite justify getting myself a machine either. I'm perfectly happy with my bean grinder, tea kettle, and French press. :) (Besides, I can spend that extra money on fancy cheese!)

      Haha if only I could have thrown my tree out the window! Unfortunately I'm in an apartment building, and the office is the unit right below mine. I think they would frown on me throwing an old tree on their doorstep. :D Funny thing is when I got the tree my dad helped me pick it up in his truck, and it was wrapped super tightly, so it would fit. After we untied it and it sat in here a month (and got much stiffer) there was no way we could get it out the door! We spent a couple hours hacking off limbs with hand saws, hauling loads of them out to the dumpster, and then cleaning up allllll those fir needles from the carpet. I definitely got the full experience out of my one year with a live tree, haha. I think I'll stick to artificial from now on.

      I love when people write "reviews" their own way, since it makes them much more personal to that blogger. It's easier to see their personalities shining through and I end up enjoying them much more!

      I *love* travel and definitely don't let fear get to me there. If I get lost somewhere I can usually find my way out pretty quickly. And if I don't know the language I can always draw pictures of what I want to find! :D

      Thanks, Cayce!

  13. Love this post Leanne and next time I’m thinking of not doing something I’ll remember this. It’s so simple and so true. I have tried things and failed and yes it hurt like hell but I got through it. I’ve even lived through my worst nightmare and I’ve survived and it has made me a lot stronger that I ever was. I can remember saying as a much younger person ‘I’d die if that happened to me’ . Well no, I didn’t die, I carried on and pulled whatever positive I could out of the situation. That really helps me to do things I might be afraid to tackle as I know I can cope with disappointment and I’d rather live with the disappointment of failing than live with regrets for not trying any day.
    And I love posts like this as they so inspirational so I hope you’ll keep doing them :)

    • Thank you, Trish! I’m both sorry and glad to hear about you living through your worst nightmare – sorry it had to happen and glad you came out the other side just fine. And you even managed to pull some good from it! You’re a great example for people needing a role model to get over their fears and/or bad situations. You’re one of the most positive people I’ve met in this community, and I love that you just try things when you want to!

      If the mood strikes me to write up something like this again, I’ll definitely be posting it. The feedback has been awesome. :)

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    • Aw, that sucks! I really don’t blame you for being afraid of driving, though. There are some pretty inconsiderate people behind the wheel out there! I have to be super alert of everyone whenever I go somewhere, even if it’s just around the block. I do hope you get past your fear of it soon, though. It makes our lives so much easier being able to get around when and how we want. :)

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  16. This is SUCH a lovely post! I’ve been wanting to leave my current job for years now (I’ve been there for 7!), but I’ve let myself become complacent. It’s comfortable because it’s what I know. If I start somewhere else, I’ll have to learn everything all over again, and what if I get fired? At my job, I know I won’t get fired because they literally don’t fire people (they don’t want to play unemployment…classy, right?). I’ve had pockets of time where I was alright, and even sometimes liked my job. But more and more it just makes me miserable. The good days make me feel like there’s hope, though, and that’s what keeps me from looking elsewhere. That, and I don’t know where else I’d go. But lately, I’ve been feeling like maybe a change in scenery would make me happier and give me more fulfillment in life. My job is the only thing dragging me down right now. I LOVE the idea of writing down the worst case scenario and destroying it! This is a very inspirational post, Leanne :) <333

    • Thank you, Jessi! I’ve never been at any one job as long as you’ve been at your current one, but I definitely know what it’s like to not like where you are, but stay there out of familiarity. It’s so easy to hate it while we’re there, and think about other job opportunities, then talk ourselves out of leaving as soon as we get home that day. There’s always this unknown containing the possibility that the next job will be worse in some way. But if where you are is making you unhappy, there’s a pretty big chance that wherever you go next will be much better. Even if you do have to learn everything all over again, you’re a smart lady and it won’t take you long! Plus you’d have the chance of learning something new, which is always fun. :) If your job is the one thing dragging you down, I would say it’s definitely time for a change of scenery. All that stuff you’re worrying about that’s attached to going somewhere new will be far outweighed by how much of a burden you’ll be taking off yourself getting out of there. Especially since you’ve been there for so many years, you may not even notice just how much of an effect it’s having on you until it’s no longer a factor. (This totally happened to me. I was somewhere 2.5 years and unhappy, talked about quitting daily but never did for the same reasons. Then once I left for somewhere else I realized I was 10x unhappier than I actually thought I was there, and the new place was soooo much better! It made learning the new things no big deal, and I caught on to things – and even started making improvements on them – in no time.) I’m so glad I could help give you some inspiration, Jessi! I hope it leads to a new and better part of your life, one that won’t drag you down anymore. :) <3

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